DREAMS: Activating Your Dream From Clarity to Commitment I PART 5

Tim Pecoraro: 00:00:00

Foreign. Welcome to the Uphill Community Podcast. Your source of inspiration to gain clarity, elevate your standards and embrace your call to more.

So we can choose the uphill climb, pursuing the hard best over the easy good. And discover the extraordinary life waiting to be lived in community. So welcome to the show.

I'm so glad you're here and if you are a March Madness fan, man, it's been great. It's been great so far. And just want to go ahead and say shout out to the Yukon huskies, man, the 12th Natty. That's amazing.

I just think that's incredible. I mean that's like, that's building something. And a shout out to South Carolina. I mean that's where I currently reside.

And they've done a great job, Don Staley's crew, but man, Gino in those Huskies. So yeah, the men, they'll be finishing up and that's going to be interesting to see how that goes.

Duke kind of had a little collapse and Houston, that just shows you don't quit, you just don't give up. You just play to the end, play to the final bell, final whistle, whatever it is that you're doing, play to the end. You never know.

You never know what's going to happen. You got to keep going. So that's kind of like what we're doing on these dreams. You got to keep going. And I've enjoyed thoroughly doing this exercise.

Actually.

I'm putting together all a whole self paced course for people to just work through, finding their dream, putting their dream to the test, working on that so that they can move forward. I mean, I'm really excited about it, been working on it. I've been taking my community, the uphill community. Folks.

We've been covering this stuff and it's been really good. People are, you know, they're learning more about themselves.

They're figuring out, hey, you know, this isn't my dream or this is my dream or hey, you know what this is? This is something that I've got to invest in. If I say that I believe in it, you know, hey, this is gonna cost. It's not just a one and done.

I pay, I pay one time for something and that's it. No, it's gonna keep costing. So anyways, I'm so excited about to wrap up. This is the fifth episode, part five. And so we'll get to that in a second.

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You know, you squat, you bend at the knees, you know, you, you lower down, you raise up like all these things, the mechanics, some basic things that are life changing. They're fundamental things that I believe make the greatest difference in your life. It's the rudiments that make your life better.

It's the basics, the understanding of basic things that wisdom then shows up, takes those basics and bam. Takes you to the next level. So today's topic, we are going to wrap up on this thing dreams. And this is about a dream activation.

We're going to activate your dreams. So are you ready to live it? That's the question. Right, so this is basically around your commitment and your action. So I'm taking two questions.

Am I truly committed and am I ready for success? So those two questions are combined together to see if we can activate this dream.

So I'm going to give you a recap so you can listen to the other episodes one through four that we, that, that I had a conversation with you guys on and we've been kind of walking through together. If you've been keeping up with it. Um, it's what I've been doing with my community.

We go a lot deeper in the uphill community so we, we get really deep into stuff. So this is just going to get you that top level, but it's workable.

This is stuff that, if you put it to work, I promise you, it can make a difference in your life. And it will make a difference in your life if you apply it. Right.

So what we walk through on this journey, which I believe is a powerful journey, over the last four weeks, it's. It started with ownership and clarity. That was in episode one of this, part one of this. And then we. The strategy in. In, in part two of this.

And then we talked about strengthening your circle or your influence to people in your life. And that was in part three. And, and then part four was. Four was about developing grit and resilience. That's what part four was of this series.

And so now it's time to. For us to look at what matters most. Okay. This is, this is what, you know, what matters most. Action. Okay.

I mean, what's the point of doing so many things without action? I know a lot of people, they spend all their time, you know, it's. It's like you study, you study, you study, but you don't take the test.

It's like you, you, you, you train to, to. To, I don't know, try out for a sports team. And you train and you train and you train and you don't go try out. It's.

You read, you read, you study, you do all these things.

Like, I mean, just, you know, you're trying to get better at something or you're learning, you know, you want to learn woodworking and you buy all these tools and you, you read about it, you go online, you do all these courses, pull the tools out and cut a piece of wood and build something.

So that's kind of what happens when, when we're dealing with our dreams, when a lot of times we can just put ourselves in this spot where we get all these things together, but we don't take any action. Or what we'll do is we'll think about stuff and we, we work up a plan and we reflect and, and we refine and we, we reimagine things, right?

But then we don't do anything. We don't want to do that. Right. We want to take action. So let's just go ahead and put it in the positive. So you have been reflecting.

That's what we've been doing. You have been refining, because that's what we've been doing, and you have been reimagining your dream.

So today what we're going to do is we're going to cross the line between Thinking about your dream and then actually living your dream. All right, so let's just jump right in with this main part of it. So the first thing that I want to cover is clarity.

Without action, it's still going to keep you stuck, because so many people just. They stop short just from the breakthrough.

Now, I read this story years ago, and I don't know the exact details of it, But I kind of remember it like when. When the big gold rush happened, in the early times of the gold rush, you know, when that was. And not only. I think.

I don't know,: 1800

They would dig and dig and sift and look for gold and try to find something. And eventually, you know, hopefully, they could find what they wanted to, or some people just would abandon something. So there was this guy.

From what I understand, he was out there.

He was out west, and he was digging, and he had spent everything he had, and he purchased this piece of property, and he was excavating and digging and digging, and sometimes he would find some stuff, but it never yielded anything that he thought. So he finally just gave up. He just quit. He stopped. He found some, but just not enough. And he quit. Well, someone else came and purchased what he.

Where he left it, Kind of purchased it from him. And where he left off, they picked up. And do you know, they said it was less than 12ft away or maybe a foot.

I don't know if it was 12ft or 1 foot, 12 inches. But he literally, this person came and struck pure gold. Just gold, Lots of it. Now, how disappointing would that be?

Now, I know for me, that'd be frustrating. Someone would say, oh, well, that's just my bad luck. No, that's.

Sometimes what happens is when we give up too soon, so we stop just before we get a breakthrough. And, you know, so what happens is you can get.

You can get clear and you can feel momentum, but when it's time to really step up and step out, people freeze. Or when it's time to really push to go that extra. I mean, you can get weary, and I understand. You can get tired.

You can get frustrated and just be worn out and say, man, I don't know if I have any more inside of me to keep going. But when you put it all in there and you believe and you've been finding evidence in bits and pieces, Sometimes you just got to keep going.

Because what I Believe what's happening is I'm building more muscles.

Because if I just find the gold and just find everything right there, if I drill for oil and I get the oil and I don't know, maybe the story was about oil. It could have been oil fields. They were drilling, drilling, drilling, and then 12ft away or something like that.

So whatever it is, gold or oil, and I just remember it impacted me that people quit right before they get to where they could be. Because they won't just continue. They won't just keep going. They won't go that extra mile.

They can either become fatigue or they, you know, they've done enough digging or they've thought something to death. Basically, they killed something by thinking about it too much.

And so you can overthink the fact that you haven't found the treasure yet or the gold or the big thing of oil in the ground, striking oil, black gold. And so you could overthink that and then talk yourself out of it, or you can overthink all of your planning and reimagining in your dream.

You can overthink it and then you can put yourself in perfect timing. You could say, the perfect timing is, well, if I haven't gotten it yet, then I'm never going to get it.

Or perfect timing is, well, I got to find that right spot or it won't work. We try to get everything just right. And a lot of that has to do with the fact that that is like the number one core human need is certainty.

We're looking for certainty. And in doing so, we can delay our destiny because we want to be certain, because we want everything to be done just right.

We're looking for the perfection or it needs to be done on our time. But see, here's the truth. Clarity means nothing if it doesn't move you.

So as you're sitting here and you're refining and you're working on stuff and you're looking for your dream and you're trying. And I want you to be clear on your dream. I want you to be working. I want you to find evidence of it.

Like the person who's digging, digging, digging, finding bits of gold or a little bit of oil here and there. But you keep going, keep going. Don't quit. You're getting your evidence. You're getting clearer and clearer. So don't just dig and look for the stuff.

Also optimize your dig. Think about your dig. Look at where you are. Kind of calculate and go, wow, look at every so often I run into, like larger amounts of this stuff.

And if I keep going in this direction, what could that mean? So as you're getting clarity, it doesn't mean anything if it doesn't move you or propel you forward. So you want to keep going.

Your dream will not come alive until you come alive and take the next step and the next step and the next step. So reflect on this. If your dream came true today, would you be ready emotionally, mentally, and practically?

If you could have your dream right now, would you even be ready? I mean, do you know what to do with it? I mean, once again, if you found the gold that you were looking for, what's next? Is it just the gold?

So you're clear, what's your action? So if you don't stop before you get there, what happens if you do get it, what's next? What's your next thing? You might say, well, Tim, that's easy.

Here's what I would do with it. Well, the thing is, if you're struggling with even getting there, you could say that that's easy.

But once again, just because you get the thing that you say you're going to get doesn't make it better. It's like a person. If you're struggling to. To do your finances with the money that you have, you're going to struggle.

Even if you get more, it doesn't all of a sudden make you better. You just have more to do the same thing with. It's like relationships.

You may not be good with the friendships that you have, but just because you get more people doesn't mean you're going to become. Well, if I can just get a new group of friends, well, you're still the same person. So even if you get new friends, that doesn't change you.

Now, it could influence you to change. It could give you a vision of trying to do something better. But again, what would you do with it if your dream came true?

To have a person in your life, to have a business, to grow something, to change, I mean, whatever it is, would you be ready? Emotionally, mentally, practically, are you ready? So that's the first thing. Clarity without action is still being stuck in the action.

Not just action of quitting and moving away, but the action of continuing to move forward. And then when you find the thing, be ready to go with it. What's your next step? Then there's the fear of commitment.

So this is around taking action, the fear behind commitment. So sometimes it's not failure that we fear, it's the weight of succeeding. Some people don't realize this.

But when you succeed, there could be some weight on that, because success means change. It means leaving your comfort, raising your standards. It means being seen. It means being stretched. Like you're noticed now.

And, you know, if we're honest, staying in preparation mode feels safer than showing up and just doing the thing. You know, it feels a lot safer just saying, well, I'm prepared. It's so much easier than just going and doing the thing.

But the cost of staying safe is stagnation. The cost of avoiding commitment is regret. So you have to think about that. You'll regret it. You know, we have to understand it's like a ship.

A ship in the harbor. Ships weren't built for harbors. They were built for the sea. So it'd be like seeing a beautiful vessel in the harbor. And that's all it is.

And you meet the captain and you tell the captain, well, how far do you take it out? And the captain says, well, I don't want to take it out.

And you say, well, why don't you want to take out this boat and take it out and take it out into the ocean? He says, well, look at it. You see how beautiful it is? Well, yeah, it's gorgeous. This is a beautiful boat. You know, on your sail looks incredible.

Let's go. Why don't you want to do it? Well, because I don't want to run the risk of it getting wrecked or damaged. Damaged.

I mean, you build a boat to keep it safe in a harbor as beautiful, it is majestic, whatever, and you don't take it out of the harbor and out onto the sea. We were not built to just be stagnant. We were not created to do nothing. We were created for great and mighty things, I believe.

So stagnation is costly and. Or. And it's costly because you're just being safe. So to be stagnant, it's going to cost and safe, create stagnation, which is costly.

And then when you avoid commitment, it's going to be regrettable. You'll have regret.

So we have to make a new decision, not just to want our dream, but to live like we're already becoming the person who can actually carry the dream. So it's kind of like a person that says, I want to be a multimillionaire. And I say, well, what do multimillionaires do? Well, I would assume they do.

Well, no, let's find a multimillionaire, talk to the multimillionaire and see what multimillionaires do, especially the multimillionaires that live next door to you and you don't even know it. And if you can find them and you find out about them, ask them what they do, right? Because you'd be surprised how they live.

So what you want to do is start doing those things before you ever get there. You start imitating, behaving that way. What are the things that they do? It's kind of like leadership.

A lot of people get a job, they go to college, they get out of college, they get a degree. The degree gets them a position because they pass courses. And I get it, they did a great job, they worked, they did all this stuff.

But then they get put into this leadership role. And maybe the thing is, maybe they get there, they get comfortable and they do the minimum to get by. I'm just saying they just say that happens.

So just because you have the degree and you have all these things and you get a title doesn't make you truly a leader. It doesn't truly make you more qualified than someone who may not have all those things.

But they do show up and they do work hard and they do extra, and they can do the work and they only do the work, but they collaborate well. This is the person that I would want, the person that does all of those things and who leads without a title of being the leader.

And so that's what you want about your dream. Are you willing to live like you're already becoming the person who can carry the dream that you say that you want?

Who is the person who can do that thing? Who can take the action? So here's a good reflection question for you.

The fear behind commitments is are you holding back because you're afraid of what success will require of you if you succeed? Right? If you become a great author. Let's just say you become an author and it's going to require you to travel and speak.

But you hate traveling and speaking. But you like writing books. You see what I mean? Like, you have to remember that if there's. There's certain things that are going to come.

Are you ready to go? Well, if I'm a successful author, I'm not going to have to go speak.

Well, what if it helps for people to buy more of your books and you want to write more books for people to meet you. So maybe you don't have to speak on some circuit, but you do need to get out there and talk.

Like you've got to get yourself ready to sustain the thing that you say that you want. So don't just go for the dream. Go to be the person that can sustain that dream. Okay? Because it's kind of like this.

Your talent can get you places, but it's your character that's going to sustain you. It's your work ethic that can sustain you. It's your integrity that's going to sustain you. That's the stuff that's going to sustain you.

Not just you have talent, talent's not enough. So I'm so excited about this last one. It's just taking one bold, irreversible step.

So now that momentum that you, you know, the momentum that you have, this is the moment for you to stop dancing around that dream. If you get any momentum, don't play with it. Don't just dance around it and play games with it. If you get momentum going in your dream.

Part one, part two, part three, part four of this podcast where you sat down, you looked at your circle, you looked at your idea, you answered these questions, you start doing all of this and you get it together, you get some momentum around it. It's time for you to commit to your next steps of action. Not just what you're thinking. You can't. You have to change. You have to take an action.

So what's one bold, ready, irreversible, visible step you can take this week? What's something that you can do that you can't go back on? Right.

So it's kind of like if you were a person that your dream is to, you know, run a marathon and. Or run marathons, you know, until you can no longer run.

And part of that dream because you're get on a fitness and a health journey, maybe one of those dreams is you really enjoy some cocktails and you drink a good bit. So maybe what you want to do, bold, irreversible, you could reverse it. But just go ahead and commit to.

You take all your liquor cabinet and you empty it out and you toss all those bottles out and you go on your fitness journey so that you can reach that dream of running. Maybe you want to run every marathon in the United States. I mean, I don't know.

I don't know what your dream is, but take something that's visible, irreversible, and bold. It might be launching, you know, a website. You put your website out there, you're going to start something. You want to be a coach.

I just met with someone that I'm coaching, and I'm going to see them go to the next level with their coaching. And it may be to send an email asking someone taking a Step putting yourself out there. It may be that you have to tell your team something.

You have to let them in on what you're doing. Maybe you need to enroll in a course. Maybe you need to make an announcement to people that you're pivoting, you're making the change.

Make it irreversible, make it bold, make it visible. So what's the one courageous step? This is what I want you to reflect on that you've been avoiding. And what would it look like if you did it today?

All right, so the first part is clarity without action will still keep you stuck. And the question that you want to ask yourself is, if your dream came true today, would you be ready? Emotionally, mentally, practically.

Second thing is the fear behind commitment. Sometimes it's not that we'll fail, but it's that we'll succeed.

So what I want you to reflect on and the question that I want you to ask yourself as it relates to this is, are you holding back because you're afraid of what success will require of you? What will you have to do? And then the third is taking one bold, irreversible step, that bold, irreversible, but visible action.

So the reflection question I want to give to you is this. What's the one courageous step you've been avoiding? What have you been avoiding? And what would it look like if you did it today?

So, hey, I'm so pumped up that hopefully you guys are, like, getting a vision for your dream, that you'll be willing to listen to this again or go back to the other episodes 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5 and put this to work. Bring it into your life. I mean, think about these questions. If your dream came true today, would you be prepared to live it?

What's your internal fear, right, or hesitation that's keeping you from committing? And what bold, irreversible step can you take this week to activate your dream? Because this is your moment.

This is the time for you to activate something. So take that one visible, decisive step that you can't take back. Something that says, I'm really in this. This is real. I will not give up.

I will not quit. Post it publicly. Register your business name. Reach out to a person that you've been avoiding and share it. Invest in yourself.

Commit with your actions, not just your intentions. So you've done the inner work. Now it's time for you to let the outer life reflect the inner work. Your dream doesn't need to be perfect to begin.

It just needs to say yes. It just needs to say yes. That's it. So over the last five episodes, you've claimed your dream as your own. Hopefully, you've clarified your vision.

You've built a strategy, you've strengthened your support system. You've learned to endure the hard parts, and now you've stepped into action in activation. So don't let this be the end of this conversation.

Let it be the beginning, the beginning of a movement for you. I really hope that you'll just grab a hold of it. I want to see you build your life, increase your life, improve your life.

I want you to help yourself, see your dreams come true. You can do this. You've got this. And always remember, the best things in life and if they're worth having, are going to be found uphill.

You got to do the hard best. Anything worth having is uphill. And you can't go uphill with a downhill habit. And if you're looking for community, check out the uphill community.

Sorry, the uphill community. That's where we work on stuff like this all the time. The uphill.community so, friends, until next time. We'll talk soon.